Today we are having a party for my 17 year old for his birthday. It should be alot of fun, family and friends. Last night I was looking for something and ran across an audio cassette tape I had made in 1988-1991 of my now almost 20 year old having his first bath, babbling at 4 months old, then talking to me at 2 1/2, him and me reading a story together, him reciting the pledge of allegiance and singing a silly song. I listened to it a few times, and I could just shut my eyes and I'm right there. Boys stay close for along time, but at least with my oldest, when they decide its time to push you away, they push hard. But for me, nothing has changed, I remember his sweet little voice and smelling his sweaty little neck like it was yesterday! He seems to need to keep me at arms length so he can grow up. (Although when he had a stomache ache, needed a few stitches another time, Im the one he called : ) What saves me is still having a sweet little 8 year old boy at home so I dont miss the oldest as much as I might, and a 17 year old who is still really involved with the family. They all will be here today together having a good time so I will be one happy mom!
3 comments:
Not to worry - when they think that they have proved to themselves that they don't NEED you - then they can just WANT you.
My son is 39 and the past several years we've gotten close again ... because we enjoy each other.
Your children will always need you, they just need to think that they don't. It's a hard phase though, I can't imagine. What a beautiful picture of you all together!
Shifting from being the center of your child's world to an orbiting planet is so hard, but watching them become their own center means you did an amazing job!
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